Becoming a parent truly changes a person in so many ways that it’s often hard to separate the identity of the parent from the identity of the person. This is also true of marriage, although arguably to a much lesser extent. Many women (myself included) have a difficult time feeling fulfilled, as the once independent, mostly unaccountable woman needs to be relied upon and readily available to the needs/wants/etc. of the child. This can be especially hard for attachment parenting families, as the child’s needs are most carefully met.
This past week, I’ve engaged in two different forms of media addressing the same situation: How to find purpose, even fulfillment, after becoming a wife/mother. This was not a purposeful quest on my behalf to answer the above question or to improve my own life. I simply was just searching for some excellent entertainment value.
The movie Eat, Pray, Love was offered for free on the STARZ channel, and because I have heard and read excellent reviews of this movie, there was no question that I would tune in to see what it was all about. Julia Roberts’ brilliant performance aside, I just could not quite get past the very selfish, almost childlike mentality of the central character. Maybe I just couldn’t get past the fact that Liz (the main character played by Julia Roberts) treated her husband in such a flippant manner by cheating on him, abandoning him, and finding her true self at his expense. I’m not sure. Needless to say, I could not identify very much with the protagonist and her journey to fulfillment.
Purely by coincidence, I also started and finished a new book titled Here, Home, Hope by author Kaira Rouda that deals with some of the same questions as Eat, Pray, Love yet offers a main character that is at once loveable and perfectly relatable to women like myself. This fantastic book dealt with many difficult situations that both tested the protagonist’s (Kelly Johnson’s) resolve and strengthened her sense of self, all while helping to guide her along the path to true happiness. I don’t want to give too much away, because I honestly do think that any woman that struggles with finding her purpose and identity should read this book, but I will say that there were times that my heart truly did ache for Kelly Johnson.
This book is an easy read, and I often found that I’d read through fifty or more pages at just one sitting all because it was so easy to get lost in the story. While complex and a little dark at times, this story has so many inspiring and uplifting characteristics that it fully drew me in.
Here, Home, Hope is available at book retailers and Amazon.com for purchase. If you would like to learn more about the author, Kaira Rouda, please visit her website or attend one of the stops on her book tour. You can also follow her on Twitter and facebook. Kaira Rouda is one of my favorite authors now, and I cannot wait to see what she comes up with next!
What are some of your favorite books/authors/films that deal with finding your identity after a big life change?
I received a copy of this book from One2One Network to facilitate this review. All opinions expressed in this review come from my experiences reading this book. No other compensation was provided for this review.